Your friends are always telling you that you are good looking, have a great personality and have so much to offer someone, but you’re thinking “If I’m so great then why am I still alone on a Friday night trying to heal my broken heart?”
Closer than you imagine is what the solution may be if you are ready to be truthful with yourself. Most of the time we walk around in denial, telling ourselves that all the good ones are taken, but you’re still single and you are a good catch, so all the good one aren’t taken!
Reason #1 – You are attracted to the wrong person.
Make a list of what you look for in a partner, is your list close to who you are attracted to? My friend, Belle, for instance, is a beautiful girl and has no trouble getting a date, but her relationships never last more then a few months, why? Belle doesn’t give the guy a chance if she doesn’t feel that instant attraction. That attraction though, has nothing to do with the guy and has everything to do with sexual attraction. With a relationship based on sexual attraction, how do you build a long-term relationship out of it?
Some couples can grow from a sexual relationship to a more meaningful relationship, but it really depends on the people. Unfortunately for Belle, these guys she is attracted to are not the kind of guys that want to settle down, or are the type that will stay faithful. Because her list and the guys she dated have very little in common and that is why she always ends up with a broken heart.
And your list looks like? Does the person you want to be with and the person you are attracted to the same?
Reason #2 – Searching for love in all the inappropriate locations.
I hear constantly from my friends how hard it is to meet a great guy. A bar … they sheepishly tell me when I ask where they are looking. Anyone who has met someone at a bar has not had a permanent relationship, at least I haven’t.
You’d most likely have a better possibility to meet someone at a coffee shop, a bookstore or even a laundromat even though there is a chance that you might meet someone remarkable at a bar. One of my friends met her partner at the bus stop where they struck up a conversation and got to know each other as they were there every day at the same time. A few weeks later they went on a date, finally. Getting to know each other on the level as they did at the bus stop would not had happened if they had met at a bar instead.
Meeting Mr. Right could be as easy as hanging out in some of your favorite places, what are they?
Reason #3 – You listen to your friends and not your gut.
The best is all our friends’ want for us and unfortunately it is not always the same that we want for ourselves. I remember meeting my friend’s new boyfriend one night, they had been dating for a while and she really wanted her friends to finally meet him.
Her new guy got so drunk and out of control, it was rocky right from the beginning. He kept spilling his drinks, getting louder and louder causing my friend to squirm in her seat. He did not make a good first impression.
“That guy is an idiot and you deserve much better than that!” I told her the next day. She continued to see him and didn’t give into peer pressure as I know I wasn’t the only one who told her to dump him.
He turned out to be a really awesome guy so I am so glad she ignored me! That night he drank too much and acted like a absolute jerk because he was so anxious about meeting all of us.
So do you listen to your friends and dump potentially great guys?
So is the solution to why you are still alone right in front of you? The changes that you need to make, do you now know? So you are not home alone on a Friday night, wondering to yourself “How can I heal my broken heart?” can you make the necessary changes? By submitting your comments you can let me know if there is another reason or two I may have missed.